How To Deal With Change?

By Rahul Desai on 17 Aug, 2008. Topics: Life, People, Spiritual . Comment: 1

"It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power." - Alan Cohen

“The key to change... is to let go of fear.”

Change’ as they say, is the only constant. It’s inevitable and it’s here to stay. So how do we go about living with changes (unpleasant, unwelcome in most cases)? I don’t have any magic mantra for that. My knowledge is limited to this webpage: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Change

However, one of my friends happened to find more. Here are some points from the email he forwarded. 

Most people appreciate change — as long as it's happening in someone else's life. We all admire those who face major challenges in their lives and grow from their experiences to become better and stronger people. How brave and exciting! What a terrific story! But when we face change in our own lives, we feel very different emotions: we feel doubt and fear, annoyance and anger, sadness and guilt.

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It's About Helmetting Right

By Rahul Desai on 14 Apr, 2006. Topics: Life, People, Safety . Comments: 6

If my existence mattered to you (in any positive way), you must thank ‘Vega’ for saving my life. (Or at least, for saving my aashiq ka thobda from getting deformed completely.) Vega is a helmet manufacturer in India, and one of their products is taking great care of my Einstein-brained head for more than two years now.

To jot another similar incident, apart from my own this last Saturday, a year and a half ago one fine evening Raghu and I (we all know Raghu well enough by now, don’t we?) were sitting in our hostel room. If I recall correctly, we were trying to synchronize some jazzy music over the LAN by playing it on two computers simultaneously and trying to create some unusual acoustic effect, just when Vaibhav came rushing in. Vaibhav (Puri Goswami) lived just the next door, and he had returned from work (from his MS internship place). Instead of going to his own room, he came to us and showed us his helmet and its left side. Then he told us the story of how he was stuck in the traffic near Pune University Circle, was going so slow to the left of the road (parallel to the footpath) and lost his control falling down to his left side. It was such a controlled fall that his two-wheeler was all safe, and his entire body was equally fit - apart from the fact that his head (protected by the helmet) had banged onto the edge of the footpath. It was a hard hit, he passed out for a while and lost complete track of what was happening. He had to sit back by the roadside for some time and then proceeded and reached hostel to tell us the story. The helmet saved us our precious friend, unlike the case about three and half years ago when the same helmet could have saved many other things apart from two important lives.

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The Origin Of Stress

By Rahul Desai on 17 Feb, 2006. Topics: People, Lifestyle . Comments: 0

Most people in the world today suffer from stress. To deal with stress you must first find out its origin. Identify its source before you can root it out. Imagine there is a foul odour in a room. The smell actually comes from a decomposed mouse behind the curtain. Without finding its origin, you may try to drown the odour with air freshener and perfume. Such methods may restrain the smell for a while but cannot eradicate it. For eliminating it completely you must locate the source of the odour. The moment you find the dead mouse you know exactly what to do. You then understand the absurdity of applying external solutions to an internal problem of stress. You must therefore get to the bottom line of stress. Then alone will you be able to deal with it, reduce it and ultimately become stress-free.

Stress arises from an ungoverned mind. One cannot afford to let the mind take over one's actions. The mind has no direction or dimension. The intellect alone can direct, govern and control the mind. If the intellect is not available for guiding it or not powerful enough to control it, the mind can go berserk and devastate the personality.

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Have I Been Too Late?

By Rahul Desai on 08 Dec, 2005. Topics: Technology, India, People, Narcissism, Lifestyle . Comments: 2

A wi-fi enabled notebook and a compatible multimedia mobile-phone (with sufficient calling currency) can make a killer combination.

6:25 on a Thursday morning, the computing machinary wakes up and a preset media player playlist pops up (Windows XP Scheduled task) at my service. Meanwhile, Nokia PC Suit auto-connects to ‘AirTel Mobile Office’. 6:30 now, Outlook Express comes in (a Scheduled task again), and ‘you have no new messages’. Not an issue; there will be one, by 9:00 for sure. And I guessed it right: there’s a new message, on reaching the office. Mail from a friend, asking to meet over coffee in the evening post-work. Ctrl+R, “Deal”, Alt+s. No redundant communications ever, after this. Just an email with some acknowledging task. (Thankfully, none of those hundreds of planning-calls, Rs 1.20/min each)

Between this, the reminder on cell-phone ticks: I have to make a presentation post-lunch between 3:00 and 4:00pm. The ‘Meeting’-type reminder also specifies the person’s name and contact number whom I have to ‘meet’, apart from the meeting timing, duration and the location. Not to mention, all this well in advance, giving me all my time to rehearse. On the way, I realize my mobile-phone battery is low. Not an issue: the latest technology DKU-5 (cell-to-PC connecting cable) can also be used to charge the cell-phone through the notebook’s battery. Thank USB! So here I manage to reach, on time. It’s a government office: Bhopal Development Authority (BDA).

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